Peer pressure is when you feel influenced or pressured by people your own age – your peers – to act, dress, or think a certain way. Sometimes peer pressure is direct, like when someone tells you to do something you don’t want to do. Other times, it can be more subtle, like feeling like you need to act a certain way to fit in with a group. While the influence of your peers can sometimes be positive, like encouraging you to try new activities, it can also push you to make choices that go against your values or make you uncomfortable.

  • Direct peer pressure: This happens when someone clearly asks, tells, or dares you to do something, like trying smoking or skipping school. 

  • Indirect peer pressure: Sometimes no one tells you directly what to do, but you might feel pressure to follow along with what everyone else is doing so you don’t feel left out. 

  • Positive peer pressure: This is when your friends encourage you to make healthy, positive choices, like studying for a test, playing a sport, or volunteering. 

  • Negative peer pressure: Negative peer pressure is when you’re encouraged or pressured to do things that could harm you or others, like breaking rules, drinking alcohol, or bullying someone. 

It can be tough to say no when you feel pressure to fit in, but learning how to handle peer pressure is important for making choices that are right for you. Here are some strategies to help.

  • Know your values: It’s easier to stand up for yourself when you know what you believe in and what you’re comfortable with. Think about what matters to you and the kind of person you want to be. 

  • Practice saying no: It can feel awkward to say no, but practicing can help. You can say something simple like, “I’m not into that,” or “No, thanks.” You don’t have to explain yourself if you don’t want to. 

  • Offer alternatives: If you’re uncomfortable with what someone’s suggesting, offer a different idea. For example, if friends want to do something risky, suggest a fun alternative like going to the cinema or playing a game. 

  • Surround yourself with supportive friends: Having friends who respect your boundaries and make you feel good about yourself can make it easier to handle peer pressure. If someone is pressuring you to do something you’re not comfortable with, they may not be a true friend. ​​​​​​​

  • Trust your instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Trust your gut and don’t be afraid to walk away from a situation that makes you uncomfortable.