Friendships are a big part of growing up and can have a huge impact on your happiness and well-being. A good friend can make you feel supported, listened to, and understood. Friends can help you through tough times, celebrate the good moments, and make everyday life more fun. Learning how to build healthy friendships and handle challenges is a skill that can last a lifetime.

A healthy friendship is based on respect, trust, and good communication. Some signs of a healthy friendship include: 

  • Respect: You both value each other’s opinions, even when you disagree.  

  • Trust: You feel safe sharing your thoughts and feelings, and you know they won’t judge or betray you.  

  • Honesty: You can be yourself around your friend, and they’re honest with you in a kind way.  

  • Support: Your friend is there for you during tough times and celebrates your successes. 

Sometimes friendships can become unhealthy, especially if there’s jealousy, constant conflict, or a lack of respect. If you feel hurt or uncomfortable around a friend, it’s important to recognise the signs and set boundaries. Here are a few ways to handle a friendship that isn’t working. 

  • Talk about it: Let your friend know how you feel. They might not realise their behaviour is affecting you, and a conversation can help clear things up. 

  • Set boundaries: If your friend is crossing lines, set clear boundaries about what is and isn’t okay. For example, if they make hurtful jokes, let them know it’s not funny and you’d like it to stop. 

  • Take a break: Sometimes, taking a break from the friendship can give you both space to think and decide what’s best. 

  • End the friendship: If the friendship is causing you more harm than good, it’s okay to walk away. Ending a toxic friendship can be difficult, but your well-being should come first. 

Making new friends can feel scary, but it’s a great way to meet people who share your interests and values. Here are some ways to build new friendships.

  • Join a club or group: Getting involved in activities like sports, drama, or art can help you meet people with similar interests. 

  • Be open and friendly: Start by smiling and saying hello to new people. A small act of kindness can open the door to a new friendship. 

  • Be yourself: Authenticity is key to forming strong friendships. Don’t try to change who you are to fit in with others. 

Where to get help 

  • Talk to a trusted adult: If you’re struggling with friendships, a teacher, parent, school nurse, or faith leader can offer advice and support. 

  • Childline: Offers support if you’re dealing with friendship issues. Call 0800 1111 or visit Childline’s friendship advice page. Friendship problems – Childline.