Family is usually the first group of people we form relationships with, and they can have a big impact on how we grow up and view the world. Families come in all shapes and sizes, and you might have different types of family relationships. Family can be a source of love, support, and guidance, but every family is different. While some families are close and loving, others might face challenges, conflicts, or difficult circumstances. Understanding how to deal with family life and relationships is important for your well-being. 

It’s normal to have disagreements or arguments with family members from time to time. However, when conflicts get bigger or happen often, it can be stressful. Here are some ways to handle family conflict.

  • Stay calm: Try to keep your cool when things get heated. Taking deep breaths or walking away for a few minutes can help you stay in control. 

  • Listen and communicate: Sometimes, family members argue because they don’t understand each other’s point of view. Try to listen without interrupting and share how you feel calmly. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

  • Set boundaries: If certain topics or actions upset you, it’s okay to set boundaries with family members to protect your well-being. ​​​​​​​

  • Ask for help: If conflicts are affecting your mental health or home life, talking to a trusted adult can help. 

Families sometimes go through changes that can be hard to handle, like: 

  • Divorce or separation: It’s common for parents to separate, and this can change how your family life feels. It’s okay to feel upset, confused, or worried during this time, but talking to someone you trust can help. 

  • New family members: Whether it’s a new baby, step-parent, or step-sibling, getting used to new people in your family can take time. 

  • Moving house: Moving to a new home or area can feel unsettling, especially if it means leaving behind friends or schools. 

  • Illness or loss: If a family member becomes seriously ill or passes away, it can be an extremely tough time for their loved ones. Grief affects everyone differently, so it’s important to talk about how you’re feeling. 

If your home doesn’t feel like a safe or happy place – whether due to abuse, neglect, or violence – it’s important to reach out for help. No one should feel unsafe in their own home, and there are people who can help you. 

  • Talk to a trusted adult: This could be a teacher, school nurse, family friend, or faith leader. 

  • Call Childline: For free, confidential support, call 0800 1111 or visit the Childline website for more information. Family problems – Childline.

  • NSPCC: Offers help and advice if you're worried about your home life (NSPCC Home Support). 

  • Leave home: You might feel you need to leave home for your safety and well-being. The Mix provides a helpful guide for if you choose to do this. Do you need to leave home? Here's a guide to help – The Mix. 

  • Childline: Offers support and advice for family and home life issues. Call 0800 1111 or visit Childline’s family advice. 

  • Family Lives: Provides support on family relationships and dealing with changes at home (Family Lives). 

  • The Mix: Provides advice for dealing with estrangement (distancing yourself from family members or other people you might have had a relationship with). How to cope with estrangement – The Mix.